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 Boundaries in Dating Participant's Guide :: 0310238757
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| All the immense value of the book is available in this participant's guide for groups of any size. It will encourage spiritual and emotional growth and character development that enables dating--within God's boundaries--to be fun, spiritually fulfilling, and growth producing. Editorial Descriptions are usually submitted by the manufacturers, publishers and authors. Contact us if you are one of them, and wish to change the above description. |
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Author: Guest
I recommend this book to singles that I counsel. In today's culture, developing a healthy relationship with the opposite sex is vital. I have counselled too many young people that have ignored the Biblical requirements for healthy relating and suffer hurtful or harmful consequences. If you are single - read this book. If you have a son or daughter ready to date or actively dating - share it with her or him. In fact, read it together and discuss the content.
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Author: Guest
You might ask yourself, I have heard this word boundary, but I do not know what it means. Boundaries are often mentioned in terms of relationships. Boundaries are a simple concept, but they can vary from person to person. Boundaries essentially keep the good stuff on the inside and the bad stuff on the outside. In the book Making Dating Work Boundaries in Dating, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend discuss boundaries at length.
Now, I just mentioned that everyone has boundaries whether they realize them or not, and they are meant to keep the good stuff on the inside, and the bad stuff on the outside. Now boundaries can keep the good people close to you, and the people that will hurt you away. Think of boundaries as an invisible property line around yourself, and that those boundaries should keep the good things in, and protect you from things you do not want in.
Examples of violations of your person boundaries include: the loss of freedom of oneself, being with the wrong person, control issues, the inability to say no, doing too much within the relationship at the expense of yourself. Boundaries are your beliefs and ideals that make you especially unique. Infringing upon your boundaries only serves to make you an unhappy person.
How do you know what your personal boundaries are? You need to know yourself. Shakespeare said "To thine own self be true." You do need to know what is important to you. What qualities do you like in yourself, and want from others. For example if you value honestly, being with someone that is not honest will not make you happy in the long term. You will need to be strong enough in your personal character to eliminate people who do not exhibit honestly in their words and in their actions.
Now looking at just you being honest with yourself requires some homework on your part to acknowledge what is important to you, for you to be willing to uphold your ideas, and then you must communicate your ideals to others. You need to communicate your expectations about a relationship clearly. When that other person may violate your expectations you need to be willing to discuss these ideas head on, and if need be you need to be willing to set that relationship free.
Boundaries are really meant to protect you. They are meant to keep you happy, and safe in relationships, whether these are friendships or relationships that may go further. You do have some ownership in knowing what things are important to you, they may be honestly, personal character, not using drugs and or alcohol. Once you know where your standards are you can communicate these to others and position yourself around people that will not violate your personal boundaries.
In addition to this book, I also recomment their other book Boundaries, and the workbook to go along with the text. Their topics are so insightful and do a marvelous job of explaining what boundaries are, how to set them, and how to tell others where are boundaries lie.
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Author: Guest
I was very upset that this book was geared towards Christians. Nowhere on the front or back cover did the book mention that the book would include quotes from the bible, tips for abstaining from sex before marriage and how to maintain a close relationship with God. I am an atheist! This is more than a little misleading...frankly, I was very offended that the authors would just assume that everyone who picks up a book about relationships subscribes to Christian beliefs. For that reason, I'm only giving it one star. Luckily, I got the book from a library, but if I had paid for it I'd be very unhappy.
That said, if a religious guide to dating is what you're looking for, you may like this book. It does have some good suggestions to offer, and I like how each chapter had a summary list of important points. This is great for a quick review of each chapter.
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Author: Guest
I read this book although some of the writing don't apply to me in my dating and searching ideas. But I can see where others could use it to get some useful information out of.
But if your coming up empty with dating or even if your looking for the love of your life then my highest recommendation goes to the book that helped me find my Fiancee " How to get the woman of your dreams using the Internet" and of course for the ladies the Author has " How to get the man of your dreams using the Internet" The Autor has found out where to look and how to get any person of the opposite sex you want online and shares it with all of us. A homerun for us searching for true love!
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Author: Guest
This is one of the best books that I have read concerning christian dating. Some books are too theoretical and some too practical without much bible reference. This book plays a nice balance between both.
It stimulates a lot of thinking on how we should handle a relationship. There are always good and bad things that we will encounter in a relationship. By quoting relevant bible verses/promises, it gives solid ground on where we should put our boundaries for the goodness of the couple.
Very easy reading, worth the time to gain good perspective about one's relationship.
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