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Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships :: 0805058265
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| People joke that the start of a couple's marriage means the end of their sex life. David Schnarch, a sex therapist praised by Pepper Schwartz, uses epiphany-laden conversations taken directly from his own marriage and the married couples he sees in practice to help readers defy the myth that marriages are necessarily passionless, and instead prove that the longer a couple has been together, the higher the fireworks can fly. It's especially aimed at older couples who, Schnarch says, are self-actualized and therefore better able to handle intimacy than younger partners. "People have difficulty with intimacy because they're supposed to," he says, and goes on in this inspiring book to combine elements of marriage therapy and sex therapy to bring plenty of practical, fresh ideas to the crowd of mostly vapid relationship books. (Note that despite its title, it's for any emotionally committed couple, not just married folks.) Schnarch says that a man is more likely to let a relationship suffer in order to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt to let her identity suffer to help strengthen it. Schnarch gives explicit tips on how to alter this pattern, an essential step he calls "differentiation." He also explains why compromise isn't always the best route to take when conflicts arise. The couples profiled here deal with the usual suspects: uneven sexual desire and initiation, battles about oral sex, self-image problems, the "boondoggle" of trust (both of one's self and one's partner), and the specter of divorce. Instead of focusing on each client's weaknesses, Schnarch teaches how to find inner strength and resilience that can be used to reaffirm a relationship and reignite sex. William H. Masters of Masters and Johnson fame calls this book "a classic," and no wonder. --Erica Jorgensen Editorial Descriptions are usually submitted by the manufacturers, publishers and authors. Contact us if you are one of them, and wish to change the above description. |
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Author: Guest
David Schnarch demonstrates beautifully that nothing operates in a vacuum. Sex problems? Some of them are probably organic in origin but a lot of them are lodged firmly in that giant sex organ between the ears. His case studies are introduced in a non-judgemental way so you aren't tempted to "take sides" in the issue. You're just pleased to see what works for a couple.
A friend loaned me this book when I saw it on her coffee table. She raved, and since I respect her opinion on most things, I read a few pages. The first chapter title drew me in: "No one is ready for marriage -- marriage makes you ready for marriage."
I couldn't agree more.
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Author: Guest
My wife and I have been married for 7 years. We have had a great time together but gradually we started being colder and less anticipating toward each other. It was obvious that the things are going in a wrong direction. I was reluctant to rely on a book but a friend of mine recommended me this one so I bought it. I completely agree that this is an excellent book!
It provides a lot of information in a pleasant and easy to understand and apply way. My wife was also fascinated and eagerly read it. It helped us to turn our conflicts into a positive and constructive tool, which we use now to improve several aspects of our marriage. It is especially helpful for couples who have lost more or less their intimacy and are willing to put some efforts to get it back. Trust me it is well-worth the time, conversations and the satisfaction from knowing that tomorrow will be better than today.
Dr. Schnarch's book also contains a chapter about better sex. It is quite explicit. I know from personal experience that mature men tend to develop serious problems such as premature ejaculation, (semi) impotence, etc which can have very negative effect on a marriage. That's why in addition I highly recommend Scientifically guaranteed male multiple orgasms and ultimate sex by Alan Ritz, which helped me to overcome quickly my problems and start having fantastic sex.
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Author: Guest
I firmly believe that if you can keep love, intimacy, and sex passionate in marriage, you are 90% of the way there on your journey to a happy and fulfilling life. If you are struggling with this challenge, by all means get help from this book or any other resource available. Especially if you have kids.
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Author: Guest
This book is very helpful, the suggestion given in this book are useful for almost every relationship in my life. I recommend this book to everyone I know.
I also liked "The Power of Positive Habits"...it is sold out at Amazon but I found it for a discount at the Barnes & Noble website, or you can get it at "The Power of Positive Habits" website. ..the web address is the same as the book title and they are giving away over $1,000 in free e-books today!
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Author: Guest
I really enjoyed this book. The author describes real couples dealing with real issues in their relationships and works with them to achieve a deeper sexual expression and intimacy. I particularly liked how the author didn't tell his patients how to feel or what to do. He was very skilled at telling people "It's your decision what you do with your life", not what I expected!!! It reminded me of another book I recommend: "Working on your Relationship Doesn't Work" by Ariel and Shya Kane. The Kanes approach is that where you are RIGHT NOW is the perfect place to have your relationship (and your life) transform into the magical experience that is your birthright. Buy both books.
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