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 Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder :: 157224108X
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| Stop Walking on Eggshells: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a self-help guide that helps the family members and friends of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive disorder and learn what they can do to cope with it and take care of themselves. It is designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves. Editorial Descriptions are usually submitted by the manufacturers, publishers and authors. Contact us if you are one of them, and wish to change the above description. |
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Author: Guest
I can't say enough good things about this book... I read it after doing a web search of various symptoms and realizing my best friend who I had recently started rooming with had BPD. Let me tell you, it was the epiphany to end all epiphanies - realizing that I was NOT imaging things, being overly sensitive, or going crazy and that there was an "answer". This realization gave me a sense of peace I cannot begin to describe. Waves of shock went through my body as I saw symptom after symptom listed; some of the case studies were almost verbatim accounts of the rage filled blow ups and bizarre behavior I experienced first hand. The authors call this realization "the light bulb effect" (perfectly put, by the way). I was fortunate enough to be able to remove myself from the BPD environment shortly after realizing what was going on, so while I can't vouch for the usefullness of the tips the authors give on how to deal with/live with a BPD person, I nevertheless count this book among the most important I've read thus far in my life. The authors break everything down in clear, concise, easy to understand terms and give very specific and realistic analogies and examples to illustrate their points. "Gaslighting" was the term that spoke to me the most. This is when the BPD's [inaccurate] reality is different from, if not the exact opposite of yours. I'll give you my own horrific experience with this: I asked my roommate a question, she guessed at the answer but didn't know for sure if she was correct. So I emailed my mother the question and she verified my friend was right. So I showed her the email from my mother, the whole point being "Look, you were right!" Well somehow this triggered a 15 minute long screaming, yelling, belittling, venomous verbal tirade that ended with her screaming "And then you show me this letter from your mother to tell me I'm wrong!" THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT I SAID! I started yelling at her to look at the email to see that I was, as I said, showing her she was right and she refused to look at the paper, actually turned her head away so she wouldn't see the printed words. For whatever reason, she NEEDED to feel I was trying to tell her she was wrong and therefore stupid. This trait is summed up by the authors in one simple sentence: "Non BPDs base their feelings on the facts, while BPDs change the facts to fit their feelings". It was worth the purchase price for this sentence alone! If you suspect someone in your life has BPD, this is a must. Even if you don't, it's still a fascinating read. There is a place in heaven for these authors!!!
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Author: Guest
This book helps me to understand and deal with my Childs. The negative thing in this book was most of the personal stories were about couples relationships. This book would have been more popular if it focuses on teenagers conflicts with parents.
I also liked "The Power of Positive Habits"...it is sold out at Amazon but I found it for a discount at the Barnes & Noble website, or you can get it at "The Power of Positive Habits" website. ..the web address is the same as the book title and they are giving away over $1,000 in free e-books today
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Author: Guest
this is a good book for learning about BPD but I found that it made more excuses for the BPD than tips for how to deal with one. As the adult child of a BPD, I found even less. The book mostly focuses on being in a marriage or dating situation and occasionaly about being the parent of a BPD. good high ground view of the disorder though.
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Author: Guest
This book is a valuable tool for learning about the disorder. It is evident that the authors have done extensive research on this subject and are thoroughly familiar with the symptoms of the disorder and the effects it has on others. They encourage readers to reflect upon their own reactions to "bpds" and not to personalize their behaviors. They offer lots of additional sources for further information and communication concerning those affected by this disorder. I recommend this book to anyone who has been affected by this emotional disorder.
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Author: Guest
If you are dealing with any one with BPD, this is a must read book for yourself. This book is for the caregiver and how best to handle the problems of borderlines. If nothing else, you will know after reading this book that the feelings and thoughts that you have been having all along are not signs of craziness in yourself. But rather a sane "self" dealing with a mental illness in another.
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